Ok...finally a feminist spoke!!! But for everyone saying that they dont see yourself getting to sex on the first date (and that actually included me too) i have 2 questions.... First, do you set yourself a limit of not-having sex period(after 2 weeks/2 months/2 years only for example or whatever) ? or is it just the first date b/c it's first that is so special? and second is a follow up to the first one , you guys dont think that it could happen? you, girls, meet that special prince charming who sweeps you off your feet and cant get his eyes off you himself and well making love (i am exchanging "having sex" with "making love" for this occasion) wouldnt be THE perfect ending to THE pefect evening? If you'd feel that he is not rushing you and vice verca and well the timing is perfect and desire is mutual, etc etc (and guys use your imagination and put your princess instead of prince)

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People, let's just all have sex and get it over with! Everyone, please go out and get some tonight..

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Lena, by the way, why is it that in your bio next to your age you have a ":(" ? There's really nothing terribly wrong with being 23.. I'm actually kind of enjoying it.. Cheer up! We'll be 24 next year. ;)

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Yeah piples.. having sex would solve a lot of issues on this topic for a lot of people..:) GO FOR IT..!!

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OK, enough about sex!!!! Stas' idea about an orgy sounds really good right now! Great, this is exactly what I need at work! You know, I am seriously considering having a casual relationship with a guy, just for a casual purposes. Sigh, sigh, sigh.

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Natasha, i was just about to say that all of a sudden everyone is for an orgy more than ever, i'm surprised, i don't think Lionya's house is equipped.... ..so, u are considering a "casual relationship for casual purposes" ? Do u mean "casual sex" or "casual shopping" ?

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Stas, dearest, I don't think Lionya would be happy with all the bedrooms being taken at his house, but we'll see in 4 weeks. As fo the degree of my "casualness", I would be nice just to have relationship with a guy and not think about if there is anything that could happen potentially or whatever. Whether I can do that, now, that's a question. I think I might be past that age.

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but why do u even consider having such a "limited" relationship ?

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Because right now it seems to me that the serious relationships or the one that are not limited by casualness seem to confuse the oposite sex. Maybe I want too much, maybe I should just take it easy and not want back as much as I'm willing to give.... Maybe I am just thinking too hard. Forget about it, never mind.

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Nata.. you sounded so sad I just had to come and cheer you up.. First of all, you're never "past the age" to have a "casual" relationship. Or to put it another way, RIGHT NOW IS THE AGE. In 5 years you might be married with kids and rollers in your hair.. then it'll be harder. But second.. don't settle for some mediocre (or even above average) sex, if what you want is a real relationship. Just say no. I think in reality, very few people are capable of having sex with no strings, and then just get up and go to work in the morning as if nothing happened. It doesn't work, and from my limited exposure to your posts, I'd guess that you're not the type that would be satisfied with that kind of a "bam wam, thank you ma'm." (And that's only a good thing, speaks highly of you.) So, buy a vibrator and wait for the REAL THING.

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Alex, Just curious how you have managed to change your opinion about how guys who try to get sex on the first date are assholes so quickly? Thanks

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Alla, when you stated "very few people are capable of having sex with no strings, and then just get up and go to work in the morning as if nothing happened" that just raised a lot of red flags in my mind. Maybe because we see one night stands all the time on tv, but I know a large number of people who don't see anything wrong in having sex without any strings attached. I don't think they are as*holes because obviously their partner was just as willing and informed to participate.

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Tanya, notice I never said they were assholes for having casual sex. If they can do it, more power to 'em...

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.. did i mis-spell that..? sorry.

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Alla, I didn't mean to make it seem like you said that, somewhere between the 30 posts I have read today that came out from somebody. I agree with you, if people choose to have casual sex, they shouldn't be considered as*holes.

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